Gentle Teaching


I teach you to feel safe with me

I teach you to feel loved by me

I teach you to feel loving towards me

I teach you to feel connected with me


Every human being longs for a relationship in which he feels safe, loved, loving and connected. In gentle teaching we call this relationship 'Companionship'. Although everybody longs for such a relationship, many people with special vulnerabilities do not feel safe, loved, loving and connected with others and even not with their caregivers. For them it's important that we focus on teaching them the feeling of Companionship. This is the essence of gentle teaching.

We have four important reasons for this focus:

  • First and most important is, that it's a human right to feel safe and loved. When a person doesn't feel safe and loved by his caregivers, that's where we should start at.
  • The second reason is, that this relationship is needed to support the person when he/she feels emotionally or psychiatrically stressed. If we cannot make warm contact with the person at this moment of stress, he/she may lose control and express his/her stress with harmful behaviors.
  • The third reason is that we know that most harmful behaviors are caused by fear or feeling insecure. Companionship enables us to reassure the person and decrease the fear or other 'negative' emotions.
  • Last but not least, companionship is also for the benefit of the caregivers. It gives us more satisfaction to support a person with a loving posture, than to try to control his or her behaviors.